see url Part of planning an event will inevitably result in patiently waiting (or impatiently waiting for most of us) for the RSVPs to come in. In most cases, there will be responses that come after the deadline. As the gracious host/hostess that you are, try to set the deadline 1-2 weeks prior to when you actually need your count. This will serve as a sanity saver for you and a small rescue for those guests who may be on their own schedule. As a guest, please be sure to communicate your plans on attendance to the host/hostess, when you are in their shoes you will appreciate how much this means.